Faith, Spirituality, and Domestic Violence

Faith can be a powerful source of hope and healing for survivors. It can also be misinterpreted and used by abusers to justify their actions. We are here to help faith communities become safe havens for survivors.

When Faith is Used as a Weapon

Spiritual abuse is the coercion, manipulation, or control of an individual using

religion, faith, or spiritual beliefs, often perpetrated by leaders or intimate

partners to cause deep emotional harm. It involves weaponizing faith to enforce

obedience, shame, or isolation, making victims feel worthless or disconnected

from their faith community.

Examples of Spiritual Abuse

Using scripture to justify abusive or dominating behavior.
Preventing someone from practicing their religious beliefs.
Forcing children to be raised in a faith that has not been agreed upon.
Ridiculing or minimizing someone's beliefs.
Using religious guilt to manipulate someone.
Claiming "marital entitlement" to justify sexual demands or marital rape.

The Role of Faith Leaders

Faith leaders have a moral authority and a critical role to play in ending domestic violence. They can:
Create a safe and supportive environment for victims to seek help.
Hold offenders accountable for their abusive behaviors.
Advocate for public policies and resources that support survivors.

What Happens When the Relationship Ends?

Leaving an abusive relationship does not always stop the abuse. Often, the abuse gets worse because the abuser feels they are losing control. The most dangerous time for a victim is often right after they leave.

Ending abuse is not about a victim "choosing to leave." It is about a victim being able to safely escape and the abuser being held accountable for their actions.

Say Your Name Inc.

301-751-2748

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Text BEGIN to 88788

National Domestic Violence Hotline

800-799-7233